How To Talk to Your Child About DivorceBy Moskowitz Law Group, LLC |
The topic of divorce is always challenging to talk about, not only for spouses, but also for their children. Divorce can create a sense of upheaval, as if your entire world is changing. Children often feel shocked, confused, or angry during this transitional period. However, by being thoughtful about how you deliver the news of your divorce, you can help your children have an easier time understanding it.
How To Deliver the News
When preparing to talk to your child about divorce, keep in mind that demonstrating patience, empathy, and a willingness to listen can go a long way in showing your support of their feelings. Instead of searching for the perfect words, prioritize honesty and simplicity in your conversation. Consider your children’s age when deciding how much information to share. Older children may seek more details about your decision, while younger ones may benefit from a simpler explanation, such as “Mom and dad aren’t going to live together anymore.” Reiterate your love for them, emphasizing that it remains constant and unchanging despite the divorce.
Prepare your child for any upcoming changes, such as new living situations or schools, while assuring them you will handle these transitions together. Highlight the aspects of their life that will remain consistent, providing them with a sense of stability in their usual routines. Above all, avoid placing blame on your partner and maintain a unified front about your decision-making process.
Helping Your Child Adjust
When helping your child through your divorce, listen to their emotions and give them space to process and react to the news. Foster a supportive environment for your child to share their feelings and be willing to recognize what you can do to help them during this tumultuous time.
Check up on your children as the divorce progresses, asking them about how they’re feeling and if they have any questions. Encourage your children to be honest, even if they feel it could upset you. Being able to recognize a problem is the first step to working through it.
Seeking professional help from a counselor or therapist may help children deal with their emotions after receiving news of their parents’ divorce. It may also provide further support for an already emotionally vulnerable child. A child may also want to express their feelings openly with a neutral third party that they do not have to worry about upsetting because of the way that they feel.
Reach Out to Moskowitz Law Group
Our team of experienced family law attorneys can provide support and guidance through this difficult time. We can help you navigate the legal process of your divorce while keeping your child’s best interests in mind. Call Moskowitz Law Group today to speak with a compassionate legal professional.