When a couple gets divorced the Court puts certain guidelines in place
for things like property distribution, division of debt, child custody,
and visitation for a non-custodial parent. If your children are younger
when you split, your parenting plan has to change as your kids get older.
The types of activities, and the rules and boundaries both parents put
in place need to be reviewed as circumstances warrant. And, it is essential
that both parents agree on issues of health and safety, and the appropriate
consequences for breaking the rules. As we all know, teens and even pre-teens,
like to test their parents. Destructive behavior must be dealt with by
presenting a united front, and by taking corrective action.
One of the most important areas of concern for an older child is setting
a curfew. The time by which your child must be home should not vary from
one parent to the other. Parents should also take care to make certain
the time set fits the circumstances. A child of 16 or 17 should have more
responsibility than a child of 13 or 14. The time you decide your kids
need to be home should fit the situation as well, and take into account
whether adult chaperones are present at events. This is a topic to discuss
fully with your kids, and one on which even divorced parents must agree.
Curfew is just one way your parenting plan changes as your kids get older,
the types of activities your kids participate in will also change.
School dances and going to the movies with friends is another hot issue
for parents to tackle as their kids grow and illustrates a second way
in which you must alter your parenting plan with your ex as you children
get older. When the parents are divorced, scheduled visits may need to
be flexible to allow for your kids to take part in these activities. A
third thing to consider when spending time with your children is the type
of activity you plan as a family. Younger kids can be easier to plan visitation
with, because a trip to the zoo or pizza parlor are relatively straightforward
activities to plan. As kids get older though, their interests change and
it can become more difficult to find things to do that keep their attention.
The key is to talk it over with your kids, and value their input. When
you allow your children to take part in deciding how to spend their time
with you, your visits will be more memorable. You don’t have to
do extravagant things, sometimes the little things are the most cherished.
If you have questions about
family law, our New Jersey lawyers at Moskowitz Law Group, LLC are available to help
you learn more about your current situation and how we can help.
Contact us today to learn more.