Moving past the pain of divorce is different for every person. The time
it takes to feel like yourself again varies in case, and the things that
help get you where you need to be emotionally are not the same for anyone.
In some cases it is helpful to take up an old hobby, or to find a new
interest. In other cases, taking positive steps toward the future can
only happen with the help of a trained counselor or therapist. The key
is to do what works for you and to take small steps rather than giant
leaps, and to do what feels right to you.
An issue that frequently arises when a couple gets divorced is whether
the wife will take back her maiden name. The question is almost as common
as whether a newly married woman will keep her name, hyphenate, or take
on her new husband’s last name. In divorce, if there are children,
a good argument can be made that keeping your ex-husband’s name
is best, so your kids continue to feel like a family. But, there is one
school of thought that there are
emotional benefits for a woman to revert to her maiden name after divorce. In some cases,
especially those where the divorce was heated, reverting back to a maiden
name can give a woman a sense of her new identify. When cases are hotly
contested, hanging on to your ex-husband’s last name can be a constant
reminder that the marriage has ended.
It is important to face your new life with confidence, and when you believe
your last name is holding you back it can help to return to your maiden
name. For some women, the association with her ex-husband or even his
family has a negative impact in their social circle or with friends. This
is especially true in cases where the behavior of the husband has been
socially unacceptable, or even illegal. Sometimes shedding a married name
and returning to a maiden name shows that you are disconnecting from any
bad acts, or questionable activity. Doing this can help you get over the
emotional trauma that goes along with divorce and help you to move towards
a happy future faster.
For more information about divorce,
contact Moskowitz Law Group, LLC.