Marriage is hard, but most people would say divorce is harder. This is
true even if you are in the middle of a “friendly” divorce.
But, there ways to make the process easier, and when you can successfully
implement methods that work for both parties your stress level will be
significantly decreased. A skilled family law attorney will be able to
help you to identify areas where compromise is easier, while still protecting
your rights and fighting for what you deserve.
Three steps you can take to make your divorce case easier to handle include keeping
an open line of communication, involving your kids (if they are mature
and old enough to take part in discussions), and seeking the assistance
of trained therapist or counselor when needed. It seems difficult to sit
down with your spouse to talk about what you hope to accomplish through
divorce, but if you are able to have a civilized conversation it can really
help put things in perspective. When a divorcing couple is able to speak
openly and honestly about their needs, resolutions are easier to reach.
The same can be said of involving your kids. Children that are old enough
to understand what is happening benefit greatly by taking part in discussion
on issues that impact their lives. When your kids make their needs known,
they feel as though they are part of the process that is changing their
world. This can result in better behaved children, with a lower possibility
of “acting out” as a result of their parents’ split.
If you are unable to work with your soon to be ex-spouse, or are having
difficulty taking charge of your emotions, the advice of a therapist could
help immensely. This is true not only for the parents, but also for any
children. A trained counselor will help to identify problem areas, and
give you advice on how to best harness the range of emotions you are likely
experiencing. When done properly, a divorce does not have to mean the
end of the world. Our job is to make sure the end result works for you
and your family, and is fair. We work with you to develop a plan that
meets this need, and keep you updated at every step.