The emotional trauma created by
divorce is not limited to the adults. Kids feel the pressure too, and can experience
difficulty adjusting to a new world. Reminding your children they are
loved by both parents certainly helps, but there are times when a more
sophisticated approach is needed. Most parents are not trained to work
through significant emotional issues, and the job can be all the harder
when going through a divorce. It can be helpful to enlist the assistance
of a trained therapist or counselor. Mental health professionals can provide
your children the tools necessary to adjust to their new way of life in
a way that allows your kids to thrive.
Some of the benefits your children may experience by
seeing a therapist during a divorce are:
- Talking to a third party adult can give your child confidence in authority
figures and help your kids learn to trust adults, which includes you.
- A therapist can show your child how to express their feelings in a way
that is productive rather than destructive.
- Children gain the reassurance that they are loved by both parents, and
that the decision to divorce is not a result of any act by the child.
The key is to keep the lines of communication open between yourself and
your kids, and to encourage honest discussions. It is also important to
avoid negative comments about your ex in front of your child, or to place
blame for the divorce on any family member. Helping your children process
the many emotions that go along with a divorce provides a stable home
life, and in turn results in a healthy child. Divorce is painful and emotional,
but doesn't have to be a catastrophic life event for your children.
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