From the time a child learns to talk, there seems to be an endless supply
of questions. "Why is the sky blue", "can I have a puppy",
and "where do babies come from" may seem tame in comparison
to "why doesn't daddy live at home anymore?" Therapists
and counselors agree the best way to answer your kid's questions about
divorce is with honesty. This can be difficult though, depending on the
age and maturity level of your children.
Some key components to successfully talking to your kids about
divorce include treating your kids like people rather than obligations, maintaining
a presence in your kids' lives and activities, supporting your children
when they show an interest in spending time with the other parent, and
avoid confrontation in front of the kids. These things are much easier
said than done, but the reward for those that are able to do so are happy
and healthy children. Negativity is contagious, and the more ill will
you outwardly demonstrate, the more likely your child will do the same.
There is no shame in seeking help getting your family to a place where
there can be civility and harmony between divorced parents. Children of
divorced parents often want both parents to be present at important life
events, such as dance recitals and graduations. If you have kept an open
line of honest communication open with your kids about the divorce you
will be more likely to participate in these events without conflict. Doing
so will also reinforce stability and reassure your kids the divorce is
not about them. Kids learn from observation, and being able to get along
with your ex-spouse in front of your children will teach tolerance and
compassion. The reward of an emotionally content child is reason enough
to put your best foot forward when talking to your kids about divorce.
For more information about the impact of divorce on children and how to
talk to your kids, call an experienced
family law attorney for answers to your questions.
Call us today to schedule an appointment.